Sunday, 4 June 2017

NVC - It's about Prevention

One thing I am clear about - NVC (Nonviolent Communication) is largely about PREVENTION.  

Heard about the attacks on London Bridge and Borough Market last night and again this morning. 

So sad to think that these kinds of incidents are preventable. 

The London Bridge/Borough Market area is not a million miles away from where I live.  In fact, it's just down the road from where I used to live. 

Since I heard the report last night, and switched on the news again this morning, I've been crying and crying, as I did when I heard about the Manchester attacks.  I'm not frightened for my own personal safety.  I am upset because London is disintegrating, this society is disintegrating.  

Have we forgotten how to talk to each other, and listen to each other?  Are we going to start to see more and more of the religious violence that has been experienced in other parts of the world?  

I don't understand why these people are committing these atrocities, why they lash out at  members of the public in these ways.  I don't understand what they want or why they are choosing to behave in this way.  This is very confusing.  I am confused.   

I only know that we need to TALK to each other and LISTEN to each other, honouring each other's feelings and needs. To repeat:  it's about PREVENTION.  

Go here for my interview with Imam Arif Khan, where he states that Islam requires peace and nonviolence.  

Go here for my interview with Ike Lasater, author of From Conflict to Connection.  Ike has worked in Afghanistan, Pakistan and the U.S.A.  

Go here for more blog posts from the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence

It's up to us to restore and maintain peace.  It's our responsibility as members of this society - and all societies. 

Go here for books about nonviolence and NVC.  




Thursday, 1 June 2017

Review of Feel Free to Prosper

I did Marilyn Jennett's “Feel Free to Prosper” programme a few years ago. The programme aims to help you receive unexpected income within two weeks and, certainly in my experience, it worked.

The book gives a very full, clear and detailed explanation of the Law of Attraction, how it works and how we can apply it to improve our experience of money and finances. This is the theoretical basis of the “Feel Free to Prosper” programme.

For more about the Law of Attraction and its practical applications, see my blog post How to Use Affirmations to Build Your Business, and download my ebook Secrets of Manifestation.

If you are new to the LOA or if you have been using it for years, you can probably learn something from Feel Free to Prosper, and/or gain inspiration from it.

One thing I particularly enjoyed about the book was what Jennett calls the Law of Satisfaction, which she says is more powerful than the LOA. I taught this method to my students for many years, although I didn't call it the Law of Satisfaction – perhaps something like the Law of Appreciation works better for me.

Simply put, the Law of Satisfaction (or Appreciation) means that when we focus on what we have already attracted, or manifested, this makes us more able to attract what we want. This is because we become more aware of our ability to manifest. This is powerful stuff.

PLUS – the book contains the first bit of the “Feel Free to Prosper” programme.

I recommend Feel Free to Prosper. Please also share this book with your networks, especially anyone you know who needs to improve their finances. 


What is your experience of using the Law of Attraction? Please leave your answers below. 

 

Monday, 8 May 2017

How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself

Have you ever decided to get started with a new exercise regime, or try yoga or meditation, for example, and then given up soon after? Have you decided to lose weight, or to finish your novel, and then given up soon after – am I the only one who has experienced this? I don't think so.

In order to bring about positive change, we need to have the different parts of ourselves working together in harmony with each other.

Check out my free audio: How to Get the Results You Want.  


Here's to your success!  

 

Wednesday, 18 January 2017

Child Sexual Abuse - Protecting Our Children

Samuel P. Holloway III
It's very unusual for a Black man to talk openly about the abuse he experienced as a child, let alone write three books about it - but that is what Samuel P. Holloway III has done.

My ebook Affirmations for Parents now contains my new interview with Samuel P. Holloway III, author of Eyes without a Face and How It All Happened:  The Raw Truth.   

Samuel is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse which began when he was just eight years old, and went on for many years.  

In Affirmations for Parents, Samuel gives suggestions on how to prevent child sexual abuse, what signs of abuse parents can look for, and what to do to protect our children.  

To read my interview with Samuel, click here to download Affirmations for Parents now.  

Please share this with your networks and please leave your comments below.  Thanks.  

 

Friday, 21 October 2016

Peace on the Table

Sheila Mann of Peace on the Table


One of the workers at my hummus factory is a Syrian refugee.  She arrived in Brazil ten months ago, and she is learning Portuguese.  When I interviewed the other workers, all women, first of all, I chose each one from a different religion (Jews, Christian Arabs and Muslim Arabs).  I explained that it was very important that they understand why I was asking about which religion they belong to, and that this factory and project is about integrating all people together, and asked them to help the Syrian girl to integrate and learn the language.

I thought that they had understood, but when they began working, they didn´t try to include her in the group and sometimes they laughed at her because of how she spoke Portuguese. I called each one separately and explained once more about peaceful coexistence between people, and that I expected them to help the Syrian woman and treat her as equal, but it still didn´t work. So I decided to use another method.

I called everyone, including my partner (the only man in the factory) before the coffee break, gathered all seated in a circle.  I asked everyone to close their eyes and breathe deeply three times, then I began to tell them a simple story about a happy family gathered after dinner in the living room, when suddenly there were bombs falling in the other parts of the house, and the house was destroyed.  I spoke about the fear and how all the family ran away to save their lives, and how it was difficult to abandon everything and just run away to a safe place.  And the long route of this family to reach a shelter and the possibility of leaving the country and beginning in another place, like Brazil, and the effort to be integrated and to speak a language which is very different from theirs.  I asked the women to try and imagine themselves having to learn a new language such as Arabic for example, something so strange and different that it was really very hard to learn.

Peace on the Table
When I finished the story, I asked everyone to breathe deeply once again and to open their eyes slowly. Then I asked them to stand up and put them in pairs, standing in front of each other and to each hold up the arms of the one in front as a form of exercise.  Then I asked the one who was being helped to turn around, and the other one to massage her back, and then I asked the one who received the exercise and the massage to close her eyes, lean on the other and let her lead for a small walk around the factory.   When one finished, I asked the women to switch sides and each do the same thing to her partner.

I repeated these exercises every day and each time used another story.  It worked, they began to treat the Syrian woman better, because they touched her, had to lean on her with confidence to be led through the factory.  Now they are chatting more with her and have stopped laughing at the way she speaks. 

I was born in Beirut, Lebanon, I´m Jewish and emigrated to Israel in 1968, and in 1973, I came to Brazil, where I live now.  

I´m a visual artist and a specialist in Lebanese food. I had the idea to combine these two passions and realized an artistic performance in a well-known museum in Sao Paulo, where I made a speech for peace based on a statement by Martin Luther King Jr., and then served a unique Arab dish for almost 300 people.  

Recently, I decided that I was not doing enough to bring people together, so I invited my son-in-law to be my partner and opened a hummus factory, as I consider this dish  common to both Arabs and Israelis.  In the factory, we have only women workers, each one of them from a diferent religion.  

I hope that you´ve liked my story, and for more information, I suggest that you access my facebook page, Peace On the Table, or my videos on YouTube with my name Sheila Mann.  It was a great pleasure to tell you about my peace activities.

Tuesday, 18 October 2016

Interview with Rawahuddin Arif Khan

Rawahuddin Arif Khan
What does Islam require?

It was my pleasure and privilege to interview Mr. Khan, an imam at the Bait ul Ahad Mosque in Walthamstow, East London and a member of the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community. 

Mr. Khan explained to me that, according to the true teachings of Islam, violent jihadism has no place in Islam.  Islam requires the promotion of human rights, which include freedom of religion, as well as peace, tolerance and love, and condemns terrorism.

Listen below for the interview.  It takes a few minutes to download, so please be patient.  Please share this with your networks and leave your comments below. Thanks.

Click here to listen to this interview

Click here for more blogs from the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence 2016

 

Monday, 17 October 2016

That's Enough Green Pond Slime (How to Stop Being a Bystander)

Ceri Buckmaster
By Ceri Buckmaster

In this blog post, NVC practitioner and trainer Ceri Buckmaster explores how we can stop being bystanders when we witness conflict situations.

Click here to read this blog post.

Click here for more posts from the Blogging Carnival for Nonviolence 2016.

Ceri Buckmaster has been facilitating groups for over 20 years. She runs a project called Empathy Injection to increase empathic skills in communication.   She is an Associate of Open Edge Conflict Transformation (www.openedge.org.uk) and is developing a new website to host writing by all kinds of wonderful people around the world, about transformative practices (www.madetobe.company ready end 2016). She is currently certifying with the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC).